A few days ago, i had lunch with some of my friends at work. We chat about a lot of things but one thing really stuck to me. A friend was talking how amused he was with his nephew and shared that kids when hurt tends to disregard it when no one sees what happened to them. However, when someone asked, if they're okay? or if there's something wrong? They won't be able to stop themselves from crying. Then i realized that this is true not only to kids but to everyone, old and young. It got me thinking what is causing us to break down when someone tries to comfort us? We spent so much time trying to deny getting hurt or in pain. We put up a mask and pretend that things are fine. We do everything to avoid conversation about what's hurting us and we are very successful in doing so. However once someone who knows what we're going thru, tries to comfort us, just a simple question of how are we doing or are we okay, will break us down to tears. Why is this? Is this something out of human nature that when one comforts us, we are uncapable of masking our emotions? Why is it so difficult to feel numb when you look into familiar eyes and hear words of comfort?
Earlier today, i realized that when we are in pain, the 1st human reaction is to deny it. We reject the idea that we are hurting. But when a friend tries to comfort us, this CONFIRMs the pain we're going thru and that's why we break down. That's why it's harder to hide the pain because now, someone else has confirmed its existence in our lives. Now, we can no longer deny it. Funny in situation like this, we most likely bury our feelings deep down inside and turn on the "stone-cold" mode persona of us. Instead of letting it out, we keep it within. We want it to go away but we hide it within us. Isn't this an irony?
Today I want to tell you that God is our Comforter. Everyday, he wants to ask us how we are doing? He posts this question to us but day after day, we avoid that conversation and we go on our daily routine, doing our best NOT to fall into that confrontation with Him. Why are we so afraid to admit that we're not okay. Why are we pretending? Is it really easier to run away from this and pretend to be happy when we're not? They say that the 1st step in moving on is when we've accepted that we're stuck. And the best person to reveal this is the Person who knows it all, God Himself. So today before anything else, take a little time with God and say what you really feel. It's okay, He knows it anyway.
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